Seriously? ‘Time-Outs’ are Hurting your Child? Are they?
Oh, just come on.
I’m so tired of reading this sort of thing – Then don’t read it! you say, to which I say You obviously don’t know me! – this sort of idea that having even minimal [age-appropriate, duh] expectations for your child and reinforcing them [in an age-appropriate way, duh] is being a meany mean pants parent and also not to mention DOING PERMANENT DAMAGE TO YOUR CHILD HOLY FUCKING SHIT. You know?
Time-outs seem very 90s-parenting, don’t they? Am I the only one who feels that? I don’t care about time-outs. I’m not at the point in my parenting where I would use one, and I’m not sure if I would or not. Maybe, maybe not. I don’t have strong thoughts on the matter. But, when done in a loving, appropriate way, I really don’t think it’s doing damage to a child unless you define “damage” as “ugh, mom, you suuuuuck.”
Someone on Mommyish (“the place where the commenters are smarter than the writers”) said, “The scan of someone hugging a puppy looks the same as the scan of someone who just snorted coke.”
I like that. Let’s stay with that.
We already feel deficient as parents because we made some choice instead of some other choice and we are led to believe that every decision from the point of conception is fraught. I’m all for research and knowledge and information – I mean, I obviously can’t stop consuming it – but invoking brain imaging to prove that time-outs are causing some kind of lasting psychological effect is just irresponsible.
Image credit: Ye Rin Mok