(title shout-out to you, V!)
I am terrified that someone will find this blog and it will be the end of the world. The mom, friends of the mom, certain family members, my stepson… The end. Good night.
I’m obviously not the only stepparent who feels like I have to keep this shit air-tight. The approval process and ban list for stepchicks made me see how serious some of these efforts are. I can sort of see why. A lot of divorced parents are involved in ongoing legal battles and custody arguments and I’ve heard of cases where posts to social media have been used in court.
But I get the feeling that most stepparents are just terrified of the end of the world.
I don’t have an accurate read on how it would actually go if someone… unfortunate… read through all of this. Have I even said anything that terrible or unreasonable or even that… unexpected?
Being a parent is hard. We know this because we hear it all the time. We hear it all the time because most people do not have any trouble talking honestly about why and how it is hard, and no one really blames parents for talking about it because it’s all something we accept as true. It’s hard, and it sucks sometimes. Parents can say that. Stepparents cannot.
Can you imagine if a stepparent wrote that? I mean, I can think of dozens of reasons why a stepparent would never be in that particular position, but let’s just say for the sake of argument…
Torches and pitchforks.
Is it because people know that, no matter how much we care for them, we may never have have the unconditional love that balances most parents? Maybe they can tell that we don’t, and it makes them uncomfortable. Maybe they know. Maybe it’s that uncomfortable fact that they want to burn at the stake.
In other news, I’m finally reading Stepmonster. Of course it’s fantastic. I may never need to write about this again.
Image credit: Ben Skinner